They Say...

That we go through stages before we die....that the body begins to prepare itself when dealing with death...that it begins to rest more...that breathing is irregular...and that one might begin to see their life as a movie...that some people when doing this ask for forgiveness...some forgive others...some want to say good bye to special friends and family members...and make sure all final arrangements are in place....
I never thought much about most of this....but I know that some of it happens because when I was care giving for my father in his final weeks he did a lot of the practical things...taking care of funeral arrangements...getting all documents in order....telling me where to find important papers....but like most things these are not the things I remember about my father...but rather I remember a strong and loving man who adored me.
I am now watching my husband as his body gets his soul ready for departure...and I have witnessed him asking for forgiveness....giving forgiveness...saying good bye to friends and family...making sure that everything is in order....and to my surprise and amazement....listening as he wakes from a 5 minute nap to tell me a story about his childhood that he just relived...or when he was on the winning team in high school that won the City Championship....I watch as he smiles in his sleep now....knowing that he is reliving something wonderful...something that brings joy to his heart....and I know that he will go peacefully when it is time...till then I hold his hand...I wipe his brow....I give him water to sip...change his clothers...and take care of him the best that I can....
BE WELL

4 comments:

Merry ME said...

I wish I had the words to say. I know, though, there are none. You are doing a great job. Michael is in good hands. I reach out my hands and heart to you. May you be at peace.

Linda Bannan said...

Patti, I'm thinking about you and Michael every day and holding you tenderly in my heart.

terri said...

this just made me cry. i'm so holding you, pattie........

Joani said...

Luv & hugs 2 U both.